Have you ever said anything you regret? Or deliberately say something spiteful in the hopes of hurting a particular person? Or making a comment hoping to pass it off as a joke? I’m sure most of us would answer yes to at least one of these questions.
In average, a woman speaks 20,000 words per day while a man speaks 7,000 words. And that is only words uttered by mouth, not yet including the words we vent on social media. I’m not writing an article about how women talk more than men (although I think that is a given fact). I’m writing to talk about the things we say rather than the amount we say.
Based on the fact stated, we can conclude one simple thing: people talk.
People talk. Every single day. A Thousand words to a hundred faces. You talk to your friends while walking to class, you talk to your lecturers when asking questions, you talk to your parents, and you talk to the man at the grocery store when you want to buy milk, even.
But have you ever stop to think what those words mean? When you are talking to a friend and you say something or make a comment, have you ever stopped to think of how he or she might interpret it? Would they take it positively or will things go downhill?
In my personal opinion, people these days tend to think that just because we have the freedom of speech and the ability to spread our word, we feel that we have the power to say whatever it is that crosses our hearts and minds. We feel that we can.
Remember, Allah gave us two ears and one mouth. So that we would listen more than we speak. But most people don’t do that. Instead, they try and talk over each other.
I’m not saying we shouldn’t speak our minds. How else would we develop our critical thinking? Or form our own opinions? I’m just saying that we should watch what we say. Choose our words and formulate our sentences carefully before we say them out loud. And say the truth.
We shouldn’t comment on something solely based on what we see. There’s always more to the picture than that (because nothing in life is ever simple, you get me?). We shouldn’t talk about things we don’t know enough about. Our comments can tear a person apart. And when that happens, we are simply called one thing: a bully.
Even when we see someone doing something wrong. Choose your words carefully when giving advice. Even when you mean well, it would not amount to any good when said wrongly. Your words can either pull them towards you or push them further away.
I’m sure most of us has heard of the saying “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”
Remember: People are not mind readers. They cannot fully understand what you’re saying and how you say it. They could interpret it wrongly and a word war could ensue. Things get lost in translation all the time. Even the greatest of people-readers can misunderstand a person.
Because actions may speak louder than words, but words can hurt more than actions.
So be careful with what you say. Never underestimate the power of words. Words can either build a person up or tear them down. How would you like it if it happened to you?
It’s okay to say your mind as long as you mind what you say.
Just a small reminder for myself and everyone from your friendly neighborhood spiderman.
2nd Year Medicine